To help reflect on our own selves, it is helpful to think of people in our lives, and to look beyond any labels like 'mother', 'husband' or 'boss'. Allow yourself to see them simply as human beings who also want happiness and don't want any suffering in their lives.
Then reflect on how you would like to be treated by others, and how do you treat the people in your life. Think about love, appreciation, respect, forgiveness, understanding, kindness and compassion. Just like the saying, "It takes two hands to clap", we understand that people tend to treat us with love, kindness, understanding, tolerance and acceptance, if we have given them the same things.